Has tension become the irritating mosquito on your head which keeps sipping your brain blood? Are you sucked of this stressful tension bee that keep flying around you and don’t let you focus on your work? Don’t worry! Not because I am going to tell you some super mantras that are sure shot ways to reduce tension, but because it’s a problem which solution is right in your own hands.
Know how to control this bugger called mental tension right below! Choose your favorite pick among 20 effective ways and enjoy a tension free life because you deserve it!
Maintain a Daily Routine
When we feel low, it affects our day-to-day life too. Our daily activities also suffer because of our low energy which ultimately gives more frustration and irritation. Settle your unstructured life to avoid more stress.
Transform the Negative Energy into Productive Energy
Tensions produce negative energy and negative thoughts produce tension. Negativity and stress make a cycle and work in a loop. They both complement each other going hand-in-hand. Try to break this cycle to break tension.
Transmute such bad energy into productive energy by using it doing some output based work. Maintain the garden, wash your vehicle, fix or repair damaged things or paint the boundaries; do whatever seems interesting to consume all that energy and gaining the satisfaction of getting some problematic things done.
Accept the Reality When Feel Plagued of Mental Tension
If you find your stress near-constant in your life because of continuous low feeling, it shows you are trying to fight against the reality. Until and unless you accept the facts, you can’t recover.
If you are not ready to accept it is raining, you will not open the umbrella and keep walking drenched and wet. Such wet cloths and body will always give you extra weight and halt you from walking.
Give a break to your brain and take the train of your thoughts towards a new direction. And this time, move to ‘move on’. Accept whatever way it is and relieve yourself from the weight of depresses, stressed and tensed state.
Appreciate God and Rebuild the Faith
Faith has a magical power. You can feel the strength of this entire universe through believing in the almighty. Don’t forget to appreciate him in your prayers for whatever positive you have in life. Count all those good moments or stuff that have ever given you the happiness. Reminding them in mind is necessary to realize that you have not only tensions in your life. You have the treasure of unlimited good memories to recall and relive in thoughts. Thank to God for this precious gift of memories. Give this gift space in your mind instead of a bad feel of tensions and see how positive energy plays to cope with your stress.
Turn Your Focus towards Right Destination
If you are trying hard to reduce tension, but still finding yourself in an endless stress loop that is taking you to nowhere, probably you are thinking more about how bad the situation is. If the flames are roaring high, shrieking “Fire! Fire!” alone will not work. Only thinking can’t hush that fire; you will have to take action.
Your destination is not brainstorming about why you are tensed, how this tensed engrossed you, why this world looking happy, not me…and so on. You need to think, how to remove the problem to remove the tension. If the solution is not in your hands, think how to move on in life and not get bothered because of the root reason of your tensions.
Find Out the Roots of Tension to Beat the Stress Completely
The worst situation is you also don’t know the basic reason of your tension. Knowing the root cause of stress is a vital step of removing tension from life permanently. Dig your heart and brain deeper to know the actual cause that is dragging you back from living your life fully. Know the bug that is distressing you and not allowing you free you brain.
This is helpful when you are feeling a low everyday as a part of your life. This might be an unfulfilled desire or underlying fear which origin lies in your past. There are possibilities that the root cause is outdated and no more relevant to your today or tomorrow, but you are living with it unknowingly because of lack of awareness about your own feelings.
Enrich Your Self-Improvement Techniques
Do it by introducing good book s to your shelf from a book store or take help of a professional. There are several sources that can help you improve your techniques of dealing with stress. Your problem is any childhood trauma or unrealized dream or a broken heart, a huge range is available for coping with a tensed life. Who knows what source and which idea pops out as a magical remedy for improving your messed mental state.
Renew Your Spiritual Vibes
Doesn’t matter what religion you believe in or whom you worship or even if you have nothing to do with any religious offerings, get spiritual. Have words with your God, offer prayers and produce some heavenly vibes. If you are an atheist, talk to your inner being, meditate and connect to your highest self. Even if connecting to God or yourself doesn’t seem your way of communication, make direct your pleas towards the universe or infinite.
Doesn’t matter to whom or through which medium; just communicate, to gain strength for combating your fears and ultimately tensions.
Have Faith, Build Trust!
Can you remember any 4-5 years old situation of past that had caused you mental tension which exists till now? All those worries are no more with you for which you had tensed once like today. Have faith that the existing tension is also not eternal. As the root cause of this anxiety will be solved, this tension will also evaporate. Build trust within that you can find out the solution and this tension does not belong to you. This positive approach will defuse the situation that is causing you stress.
Choose Peace, Not Stress
Now you will say who chooses stress, no one; tensions indeed come automatically.
The fact is the selection of peace or stress in our own hands. No outside force can distress you. It is your brain which generates negative thoughts about a situation which when increases hitting the walls of your head, it gives you tension headache.
When a trouble gives aches, be calm from inside and active with actions from outside. Tensions are not going to remove the cause; yes it can decrease your focus, motivation, self confidence and all strength which could have been useful to fight for taking back your happiness.
Take Tiny Leaps: Go Gradual while Going Far from Tensions
There is no magic bullet that can kill your stress in one shot. Just like you do not feel over stressed right at any moment; your stress level increases gradually; you need to go gradually while getting rid of your tensions too.
The only thing you need to do is walk. Your every step towards a happy life is worth. Try to go far from a messed head a little bit every time. Next day again, go a little more far. There is no rocket that can send you to a stress-free world just in one thrust. So be patient and keep going and eventually you will see that your gradual steps have left those tensed ways far behind.
Set Priorities: Reduce Half of the Tension Causes
Prevention is always said better than going for a cure later. Let’s go way far from letting tension turn to be a mental disease.
Mostly we feel tensed because of jobs in pipeline that are not ready to accomplish. A pending task turns to frustration only when its deadline looms around and we find many more important tasks as well to complete. Have you ever felt tension about a bath that you are supposed to take tomorrow? But if is early morning and office time is near, you will rush for it. Learn to prioritize your jobs to live the hassle-free days which can turn you towards a tension-free life.
Be Organized: Halt Tensions in Their Midway
We know we need our mobile charged, but does it bother when it is charged more than 60 or 70 percent? It starts to suck when the red line comes to indicate 10 or 15% of battery. Then why not charge it right when it is left with 30 to 35% charged? This is all about management and a little proactive approach.
We feel anxious when multiple tasks come ahead like a tall mountain with same deadline. Why not to prioritize them in a way that we finish out a day before the target date? This way you can shot dead half of your tensions in the beginning of their journey. And if you are organized, you will have enough time and ample space in mind to resolve uninvited and unexpected problems.
Help Yourself by Taking Advice of a Psychologist
Are you dealing with tension from a long back but feeling helpless? Do you want help of a doctor but feeling shy or embarrassed about your treatment?
Most of us live with this perception that psychologists are made for mad people only. Even when it is an alarming situation we hesitate to go for consulting a doctor. We think people will start seeing us as we are also mad.
For whom do we preserve such a fear and play with our health and ourselves? For what do we wait? Do we wait for making our fear true? Mental disorders are as sensitive as any other physical disease.
If we consult a consult a counselor or medical expert of this field on time, we can easily cope with our chronic tension or stresses. In fact there is nothing bad in taking recommendations at preliminary stage so that the sufferings end at initial stage.
Take a Broader View: Realize Where You and Your Tensions Exist
When we face a tensed scenario, our all focus contracts to that problematic situation. We forget that there is a world out of our small world too, which is bigger, broader and much complex. Ask metaphysical questions to yourself and search them on Google. You might not gain knowledge of the entire universe, but you will understand where you tension exists. You will realize that how simple and easy is the nature of our complexities in front of this excessively tangled world.
When logics fail, it is a wise take to draw a longer line to show another line smaller.
Seek for a Balanced Lifestyle
The feeling of tension or stress shows that something in your life has gone out of your control. This raises an imbalanced state which ruins the rhythm of your life.
Regaining balance from resolving the reason of your tension might not be possible at that stage, but to control life’s other aspects is in your hands. If the problem is at workplace, go out for a dinner or movie with family. Pursue your hobbies. Take nutritious diet, go to gym, do exercise, offer Yoga to yourself or enjoy meditation. This will give you a sense of balanced life and a satisfactory feel of going good with other roles of life.
If a problem in with your relationships at home, meet a friend. Take your family also with you. When you will meet others, you will discuss something out of the box which will give you new topics to talk on when you go back to home.
Find Equilibrium to Reduce Mental Tension
If one dish of a weighing device shows extra weight, it is not necessary to reduce that weight to find the balance; you can also add some weight to other dish for finding the balance.
The same way, if life’s one perspective goes out of balance and become a reason of tension, add happiness to other sides of life and try to create an equilibrium this way. The root reason of tension goes or not, but you will find yourself with less stressed.
Take a Courageous Decision
First of all you need to accept, analyze or recognize your feelings to know the reason of tension. A cause that can give you stress, surely matters to you a lot that is why it is able to give you a tough time.
Learn to embrace your tensions for going closer to the root reason and removing the root cause.
Once you indentify or realize the roots of your problem causing you stress, find out all the possible ways to work on. Judge your solutions into the balance weighing pros and cons of you plans for removing this stress from roots. Understand that taking tensions alone can’t help; you need to setback. If nothing works, take a courageous decision to get out of your anxieties. Be strong to support yourself.
If you are living with a broken dream, take a strong decision of either mending it or leaving it. Don’t just get into an awful state of losing yourself into gloom. Keep your spark alive while dealing different life events in any state and condition.
If your relationship has chosen some other ways to walk on, leaving you behind, accept the fact. Life offers us several such situations where no plans work, no solution eases. Leave broken threads and bonds on God and time if you find any scope in them. If you see no light, leave that way which throws you to dark. Choose another way, your own different way where you can find peace and bright.
Live the Moments
Most of our tensions that we take in life are baseless and irrelevant. Know here how!
We wake up thinking of what will I wear to look good, dress is done with iron or not, will I reach office on time, what if I couldn’t cook on time, the presentation will be impressive or not, will I be able to complete my targets, what to prepare in food so that kids finish the lunch, when will I get to spend some quality time with by spouse, and so on…
Such a list is endless to make a tension web around you. The thoughts associated with family, job, and relations are so many that you can’t manage or control the related things with perfection.
The most surprising fact is, no issue can harm you, your life or your happiness, but we take stress about these things as if we are running in a life-or-death situation.
Learn to Go with the Flow
Why not to live in the moment? Why not just think about now? Take a flash back and dive deeper into your memories. You kept thinking and taking stress about the things entire life; how many of your fears really came in front of you to spoil your day or life?
Why to worry about likelihood of an event? Why to allow uncertain possibilities play with your head and give you the dreaded tension? Why not to just enjoy what is happening around and crossing the eyes now?
The weirdest part of human nature is- we don’t value what we have and we do bother about what we don’t have.
We humans don’t have control on how the things will happen around, how people will behave with us or what our tomorrow should come with. Unfortunately in craving of controlling that all, we underestimate the power of what we have.
We all should think once about- we also have control on many more important aspects like how our lifestyle should be, how we think and what we feel. Yes, we can control on all these because we are gifted with a beautiful heart and a powerful brain. Once you learn to make a harmony with them both, the world is yours and so its happiness.
Life seems toughest when you can’t control your own feelings. Be a bit smart and courageous, and see, you also have a kingdom to rule which is your own.